There’s this idea out there that homeschooling is always peaceful and wonderful. Not so.
Sibling rivalry is a definitely alive and well in our home. Just because my kids see each other all the time doesn’t mean that they behave beautifully towards each other all the time.
The fact is, they don’t. They poke each other. Make annoying noises. Creep into each other’s rooms and borrow things without asking.
Yesterday, one child wrote the word “eraser” on another child’s big pink eraser which started a whole big “thing.” You know the type of “thing” I’m talking about.
I asked this child how he/she would feel if the other child had written “paper” on his/her paper. Shoulder shrug.
I’ll point out that this particular child definitely would have had a complete COW if that happened.
“Why did you do it?”
Now, I don’t think there was any malice in this act---sometimes there is, but not this time. It really was a “just because” moment.
Or more likely this child needed something to occupy his/her hands and the eraser was ready at hand. Were you one of those children who doodled on your paper (or hands), carved your initials into your pencil with your scissors, or drew intricate mazes with paths a hair’s breadth all because you were bored?
Yep, that was me, too.
Boredom is really a dangerous thing.
Speaking of…yesterday, the youngest took a (non-washable) dry erase marker and drew all over a wall and
some a whole bunch of other stuff just because she was bored. Everyone else was too wrapped up in our lesson to notice she had quietly left the room (we have a rule around here, Em is never unsupervised, because well, Em is Em…she will do anything that occurs to her).
Yep, boredom still happens. Sibling tiffs still happen---I’m considering getting myself some headphones so I can listen to happy music and block out the squabbles, but I suppose that would be immature?
The fact is, bringing/keeping them home does not automatically fix problems or make it easier to get along.
If you are feeling inadequate or like you’re not doing it right because you keep seeing how much homeschooled siblings love each other and yours seem to always be at each other’s throats…
You aren’t seeing the reality. Right at this moment, my kids are all playing beautifully together. They truly do love each other. Sometimes they just don’t get along. Nobody gets along with everybody 100% of the time. Period.
We’ve had bad days and we’ve had really good days---each of those days is just a tiny part of our whole journey together. Sometimes I want to bang my head against a wall. Truly. And then somebody does something wonderful and we are all friends again.
This is no model homeschool.
It’s Friday, I’m tired and looking forward to the weekend…but I’m also looking forward to next week. How about you?
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