Ever feel like your kids want you to cook, clean, teach, and pick up the socks in the 4 corners of the room all at once? Is the idea that they might clear their own dirty dishes is met with dirty looks and groans? Or maybe it’s more like a bewildered stare, because they honestly don’t know what to do?
10-20-20-30-GO! is an accountability system designed by a real family to help their family function together, faithfully! This isn’t just about dividing up the family “work,” but about encouraging time with the Father, nurturing family relationships, teaching personal responsibility, and building a peaceful atmosphere.
We received the Family Responsibility Kit for review.
The kit sells for $39.95 and includes:
- Bag to store everything
- Instruction Booklet
- 2 X Card decks (Illustrated or Standard) with weekly virtues, scripture verses, and individual child responsibility tracking form.
- Chore chart
- Erasable Prayer Board w/ marker
- 10 minutes of prayer
- 20 minutes of reading
- 30 minutes of assigned chores
Every day. You can bend and shape it to fit your family’s particular needs.
So, prayer time might be individual time with God, family prayer time, devotional reading, family rosary, or whatever is needed by your family at this moment in time. You might have a routine where you do something a little different each day of the week.
Reading time could be independent reading for older kids and read aloud time for youngers…or a family read aloud for everyone.
Chores can be tailored to fit each child’s abilities. Although you are encouraged to take off from chores on Sunday, honestly, the trash still needs to be taken out and the table cleared, even on the Sabbath (if nobody does chores on Sunday, that means Mom and Dad have to do everything, not a happy situation).
10-20-30-GO! is also unique, in that it’s not up to the parent to make sure the kids do what they are supposed to do…it’s up to the kids!
The included Prayer Board will stick to a a smooth surface. You can use it to post your family’s prayer intentions and to record scripture for reflection. We posted a picture of our sponsored child next to it as a source of inspiration.
Next to the Prayer Board, we have our chore list. The kids can see what their assigned duties are each day.
The chart is on oversized paper and printed double-sided. Also included were stickers with common household chores on them---I found the stickers didn’t quite fit our needs, so I chose to write in the chores. I put some packing tape over each row in the grid before writing on it with a dry-erase marker in the hopes of making it “wipe-off.” I don’t know if that’s worked or not (I haven’t tried to wipe it off). I would recommend getting it laminated at an office supply store---I was just too impatient to wait!
So Prayer Board, Chore Chart, check!
But here’s the beauty of this system. It’s not up to me to nag the kids to get things done. I don’t even have to schedule it for them…it’s up to them to do what they need to do and to bring me their responsibility card each day to verify that they’ve done their part.
There’s even a spot for extra credit, for those days when a kid goes above and beyond what’s expected of her.
You can reward your kids in some way for completing all their responsibilities, or you might choose to deny them privileges when they aren’t pulling their weight. The cards make it easy to keep track of who has done what. And who hasn’t.
On the back, there’s a verse to inspire them in their prayer time.
I love the simplicity of 10-20-30-GO! and it really did make an almost instantaneous difference in our household.
I was worried that I’d get a lot of attitude from my boys in particular, and the included instructions do point out that different kids will initially react differently, some positively, some not so positively.
But the initial implementation went fairly smoothly. It wasn’t difficult to get everyone on board and within a couple of days I was wondering how on earth I had gone on so long trying to do so much by myself.
But, we have had a few hiccups since then. After a couple of weeks, I tried it without the cards (big mistake). The cards are brilliant because they literally hand the responsibility of getting the job done to the kids. The kids have to come to me and show me they have done what they need to do. Without the cards, I turn into the nag, squinting at the chore chart and calling around the house asking who did what.
The cards are also great for reminding everyone to spend some time with God each day---something that I have to be reminded of myself at times when it seems like there are so many things I have to get done.
The other main hiccup happens when expectations are not clear---honestly, it’s hard to make things crystal clear with a chore chart. Kids forget to do things or forget what you said in explanation when it comes time to actually do it.
So, one might “clear the table,” only removing the dirty dishes, but forget to wipe it down, for instance. Or another might choose to “empty the trash” when it is only 1/10 full and doesn’t need to be emptied (because, you know it’s more work to empty it when it’s actually full).
It’s when the hiccups happen that you have to remember that any system you use is just a tool. Ultimately, it’s up to you to communicate with your family and make your tool work for you.
We are still working on perfecting things in our household, but 10-20-30-GO! gave us a great frameword to figure out what we need and how to make it work for us.
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