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Friday, February 25, 2011

Not so Sweet Nothings

Ok, ok I admit it. 

Raising a guilty hand, here and sheepishly hiding behind my computer monitor. Winking smile

doorsecurityI’m a door slammer…

a dish clanker…

a drawer rattler…

an angry mutterer of not-so-sweet “Nothing!”s…

when someone (you know who) just happens to stumble over my annoyance button.

It’s so much easier to throw a temper tantrum than to act like a grown-up, isn’t it?

And he really should be able to read my mind, right?  I mean we’ve been married for 13 years.

Doesn’t he know me better than that?  Surely all the kitchen clatter will bring him to his senses.  Right?

Right?

Don’t throw your coffee at me, please, I know I’m wrong.

Funny how I always seem to know that what I’m doing is wrong even while I’m doing it…and yet, I still do it!  My bad case of the “unfairs” is truly unfair to my husband who is honestly (and understandably) clueless as to what exactly is buggin’ me.   He’s not all-knowing, after all.  

And he wants to know.  He even asks me, “What’s wrong, honey?”

And what does he get?

“Nothing!”

Well, not exactly nothing, he does get the accompanying sound effects.

When I say “nothing” when there truly is something bothering me, I slam the door on my husband and send him the message that I’m not interested in meeting him halfway and working things out.  I’m cheating him out of understanding me better and cheating myself out of the opportunity to actually find a resolution.

It might be easier to wallow in my anger and self-pity, but the thing about unresolved issues is they have a bad habit of turning up over and over again.

I know all this.  I just forgot (I’m a little hard-headed).  Sometimes I just need a little poke in the heart (or a kick in the rear) to push me to stop being so lazy about my marriage.

And this time that “poke” came from my inbox in the form of the FREE Encouraging Moments e-newsletter from Eternal Encouragement (formerly TEACH) Magazine.

encouraging moments

Encouraging Moments will give you a weekly nudge in your never-ending job as a wife, homemaker and mom.

I’m not usually a fan of e-newsletters…I have entirely too many cluttering my inbox that I simply don’t have the time to wade through just to take away the ounce of wisdom that might be hidden among the ads and platitudes.  But Encouraging Moments is a little different.  The nuggets aren’t hidden, and there’s even an article in pdf form I can print out and read later (this week’s was on “Nothing”!).  Sign up for FREE at www.HomemakingWithTEACH.com.

Disclosure:  I am reviewing Encouraging Moments as an official member of The Gabby Moms blogging program for Eternal Encouragement magazine.  I did not receive compensation for this post and all opinions are solely my own.

6 comments:

  1. I got that 'poke' to this week, in the confirmation of what I had been praying through. It's amazing how God works.

    Blessings to you,
    Jada (another Gabby Mom)

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  2. Nice review :)
    Blessings,
    Carie (another Gabby Mom)

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  3. HA! you've been in my house by the sounds of it ;)
    You are so right, the nuggets in this newsletter are NOT hidden, they scream at us!
    fellow Gabby Mom

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  4. Great post! I like the conversation that you have with yourself. I enjoyed the newsletter, too!

    Julieanne (fellow Gabby Mom)
    http://www.JoyInOurJourney.com

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  5. Nice review! I like how you drew in readers without hammering every little detail about the newsletter- e ouch to get them interested but not give it all away! You've got a great writing style!

    From one guilty "nothing!" wife to another,

    MacKenzie
    Head Mama

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  6. Don't you hate it when "nothing" is wrong. ;) Loved the conversational style of the review. :)

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